Everyone’s Goal is to Be Loved, but Are We Seeking It the Wrong Way?

The thing is, we all just want to be loved. All of us. Everyone’s goal is the same. But we could be seeking it all wrong, actually leading ourselves away from love and toward fear. So, we need to know how to read the signs.


Deep down, every decision we make is based on our wanting to feel accepted and cared for. We all want to be loved, so we use that longing to create either heaven or hell.

The question isn’t how do we find love, but what do we do with it?

In my experience, there are clear signs that love is arriving or already surrounding you:

You’ll be drawn toward love if you trust life, see the goodness in the people around you, and learn how to stay present in your day-to-day actions. You'll feel like you’re flowing with life, things run smoothly, and there will be a deep sense of calm beneath the ups and downs of your life situation.

When you notice these signs—this is important—move toward them. Moving toward love will always lead to more love.

On the other hand, there are clear signs that you’re building a wall between your heart and love:

Fear of not having or being enough is one major sign. When you let the fear of not having enough take over, your decision making takes a wrong turn.

When this happens, we start directing our attention away from our true purpose and instead move toward ego, judgement and material things. Instead of trusting in the bigger picture, we let fear take the reigns, causing everything to change for the worse. We can feel this shift in our bodies: we get easily agitated, stressed, angry. We start looking at other people and feel threatened, jealous and insecure.

Which leads me to another major way to know if you’re moving toward or away from love...

You'll know you're on the right track when you can look at someone succeeding in the same field as you and feel genuinely, truly happy for them. Because you know there’s enough success to go around and their success does not mean your failure. You don’t even attach their success to your own because it doesn’t need to be. Their success is theirs; how wonderful for them that they’ve found it!

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If you spend your time judging or cursing someone else for their progress, you’re wasting precious time better spent moving your own life forward. The fact of the matter is everyone’s journey is different. You are not here to live any journey other than your own, and neither are they, so you don’t have to fear another person stealing your dreams. It’s just not possible!

So much of this world is built on fear and competition, and it's a vicious cycle we simply NEED to break if we ever want to find true peace of mind so we can start manifesting the life of our dreams.

Know this: every dream that is fueled by love will happen. Love is the greatest force in the whole universe; imagine that power helping you build your dream! With love, you become unstoppable. Connecting with that force is essential.

Are you connected with it? Take a step back and look at your current state of mind. What does your life look like right now?

Are you moving in a direction of love? Or are you letting fear run your life?

Do you feel safe or insecure? Are you leaning into trust or doubt?

If there’s just one key to life, it’s this:


That doesn't mean you'll be avoiding difficulty for the rest of your life—it simply means you've made the decision to let your heart guide you instead of your mind.

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Choosing love won’t pave a smooth and silky rainbow road, but it will give you every opportunity for growth—even if they’re uncomfortable. For example, when have a momentary drop into the mindspace of insecurity, let those feelings that arise be a sign to take a deep breath and become aware if what's stirring within you. Listen to the nudges of irritation that we are all overcome with from time to time. They are here to teach you great things!!

Every difficult moment is an opportunity for you to choose love over fear. And every time you choose love, its force grows stronger as fear loses its grip a little more. Through the lens of love, everything is an opportunity to learn the power of love. So be grateful for the lows as much as you cherish the highs.

The universe wants just one thing from us all: Give love. Don’t tie any strings to it or attach any fear—love can’t grow in those dark places. Give love, pure and honest and bright-shining love. Give all you got. You can never run out.

Move with love and love will move with you.

Let’s add even more love to our collective energy, shall we? Name one thing you’re thankful for and one person you’re proud of in the comments below. Go!



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