What Does Forgiveness Mean to You? favorite_border

Yoga Girl Daily - November 3rd 2020

Author: Rachel Brathen

Topics: Tune-In Tuesday, Growth, Friendship, Love, Family, Healing

Links: Apple Podcasts / Spotify

About the Episode

We tend to believe that forgiveness is an action we take or a decision we make.

In reality, forgiveness happens naturally over time. We can’t force it.

We can only trust that life will take us where we are meant to be.

Tune in today to contemplate this tricky subject. Ultimately, forgiveness is for you.


[01:02] Welcome to Yoga Girl Daily, happy Tuesday, and welcome to our Tune-In Tuesday episode of this week. I have a topic in mind for today that has been on my mind for a variety of reasons for a long time. Our topic for today's contemplation is forgiveness. So, just take a moment right now, you know, just on the topic of forgiveness, what happens inside of you? Where does your awareness go? What happens inside of the body? For me for a long time, any time I was contemplating the idea of forgiveness, I could kind of sense my body retracting a little bit like, Ooh, there's a heavy feeling for me around that, that topic overall, almost like this idea that we have to forgive everyone for everything all the time, you know, and any person that has harmed you or done you wrong, that the right thing to do is to forgive them so that you can move on. And I actually have started approaching the idea of forgiveness a little bit differently lately. You know, I don't think at all, there is such a thing as “have to” around forgiveness.

[02:16] I also don't think that forgiveness is something that we do, you know, that we force to get to that place or as if it's some sort of action that we can just wake up in the morning and suddenly take and decide, Hey, I'm going to forgive that person for that awful thing today. Rather, I think forgiveness is something that happens naturally with time, right? So, it's not something that we should look to do on behalf of the other person or for the goodness or for the sake of the other person, but something that rather we can long for, or maybe set an intention around, or maybe just bring enough clarity into our own space around the fact that there is a person in our lives that we want to forgive for something, right? So, there's a big difference between having to forgive someone and actually just putting that wish out there, or that desire out there into the universe.

[03:11] And just because you have a longing to forgive someone for something doesn't mean that you're going to arrive there today or right now. So, just contemplating that for a little bit, to see where you land around the topic of forgiveness right now. So, we can close our eyes. And if you want, because this is a very sensitive topic, you know, if you want, you can place a hand to the heart or a hand anywhere to the body that feels good right now. And then with your eyes closed, let's take a really deep breath into our heart space, open the mouth and let it go.

[03:49] Where does your awareness land when it comes to the topic of forgiveness? What story does your mind begin to tell you right away? Or what can you sense happening in the body, just around this topic of potentially forgiving someone for something? Now, many of us we've had people wrong us in our lives. We've had bad things come our way, maybe bad people come our way, perhaps you've been betrayed or hurt or abandoned or harmed or abused, or, you know, someone has inflicted pain toward you or onto you purposefully. The spectrum is so, so, so, so wide. So, know that wherever your awareness landed just naturally now, that that's probably the topic that you're ready to contemplate in this moment. So, it can be something that maybe, you know, most people would deem as light or not so heavy, not serious. Something that is light for someone can feel really heavy for someone else.

[04:48] So, this is really, really individual. Or perhaps her awareness landed right away on something super intense, you know, something that made you just, Oh, you know, have to catch your breath for a moment. Trusting in the intuition and the intelligence of your being that the thing that you're contemplating right now probably is something that you're ready to explore a little bit. So, when you contemplate forgiveness, what is the first thing that comes to mind, perhaps it is a person in your life, you know, that maybe you've wanted to forgive for something for a long time, but you're just not there yet. Maybe an experience comes to mind, you know, something that you're healing or working toward healing right now, maybe what comes to mind is forgiveness toward yourself, right? And that's kind of where I am landing a lot these days in terms of forgiving myself for the different ways I have treated myself poorly in the past.

[05:48] So, just trusting that wherever your intuition takes you, that that's where you will be spending some time just to contemplate and meditate on what is this situation wanting to show you right now? Sometimes we solidify a decision of some sort. I know when I've had people harm me in the past, I've made sweeping declarations like, I will never speak to that person again, only to find a few months or sometime later realize that actually the thing that hurt so much, it just stopped hurting on its own. I didn't have to try to forgive that person for that thing. It just happened inside of me and forgiveness when it arrives in that natural way, it brings about this beautiful lightness of being, you know, it's a gift that I give myself through the act of letting go, which actually is something I can't just do on my own.

[06:42] So, it involves grace, it involves trust. It involves leaning back and trusting that the situation will unfold inside of us the way it's supposed to. So, if you would like to take a moment today to journal on the topic of forgiveness, knowing this is so broad, it can take you so many different directions, but if you'd like to go a little bit deeper, a good prompt can be: When I contemplate forgiveness, the first thing that comes up is… When I contemplate forgiveness, the first thing that comes up is… and just see where that takes you. Trusting that there is something energetically moving around all of us right now, centering us toward this topic. So, if you know exactly what this thing is going on in your life right now, then great, go deep. If you feel like, Hmm, I don't know how forgiveness is playing a part or playing a role in my life right now, trust that this prompt has landed in your lap in this moment, because there's something interesting that's about to be revealed to you. Thank you so much for tuning in with me today. I hope you have a good journaling session today. Try setting a timer for 15 minutes and just journaling free writing on this topic. It is going to take you some interesting places. I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day. Yoga Girl Daily will be back tomorrow.

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