This Week, I Will Be Extra Kind to Me favorite_border

Yoga Girl Daily - September 28th 2020

Author: Rachel Brathen

Topics: Make It Happen Monday, Intention Setting, Self-Love

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About the Episode

Are you generally kind to yourself in both your thoughts and your actions?

Do you have a dedicated self-care routine, or are you constantly giving it up to take care of others? What would it be like to be as kind to yourself as you are to the person who matters most in your life?

This week’s intention is to practice absolute, total, overwhelming self-compassion.

Pause throughout this week and ask yourself - is this kind to do for me? Ultimately, you should be one of the most important people in your life!

Tune in to choose yourself.


[01:19] Welcome to Yoga Girl Daily, happy Monday, and welcome to our intention setting practice of the week. I am so excited that it's Monday. I'm really excited for the week ahead. I hope you've had a wonderful weekend and that you feel ready for this brand new week. This week, I have a wonderful intention in mind that makes me a little mushy, makes my heart a little soft just talking about it, because it's something that we talk about a lot on the podcast. We come back to practices to support this again and again, but I don't know if we've ever actually set a whole week's intention just to make this our center for the whole week. And it's really something that we should have as our center all throughout our lives.

[02:11] This week, I want you to practice absolute overwhelming kindness toward yourself. I'm going to say that again, this week I want you to practice absolute total, utter, mind-blowing, deep, serious kindness toward yourself. See how that settles inside of you. Just the idea of practicing that this week or the idea of setting that as a proper intention for the week ahead. Are you generally kind to yourself? I think that's an interesting place to begin. I oftentimes think I have a really solid self-care practice. I take good care of myself. I'm kind to myself, but then if I reflect on, how I treated myself throughout the past week, sometimes it turns out that that's not always actually all that true.

[03:05] And this shows up in different ways, right? Do you have the habit, for instance, of spending more time and energy focusing on helping other people with their issues than you actually spend focusing on your own? I have that tendency. It's much easier for me to dive into someone else's problems or rally to fix something or to support a cause or to help someone, and then I have all of this stuff going on in my own life and it actually takes more effort for me to keep my awareness there. So, it's not a very kind thing to give more energy away than you actually allow yourself to receive. Same thing goes with self-care. You know, I have weeks where I feel like I'm taking good care of myself, but then in terms of how I'm eating, how I'm sleeping, how I'm moving my body, I actually don't in a way that is truly, truly kind.

[03:54] So, reflect on that for a moment. What would it be like to be as kind to yourself as you are to the person who matters the most to you in life? If you're a parent, it's a really good thing to just compare yourself with your kids, you know. Sit with for a moment, the amount of love and patience and kindness and compassion that you give to your children all day, every day. Do you give that same energy to yourself? Do you give yourself a fraction of that energy and love and support? And chances are the answer to that question is an automatic, no. And the reason for that is no one ever taught us how to do it. It's as simple as that. So, this week is not about judging something or judging our past or ourselves. It's really about finding moments throughout our day to infuse our day to day practices, moments, experiences, with more kindness toward us.

[04:50] So, all throughout the week, I want you to pause and ask yourself this question, is this a kind thing to do for me? So, every time you find yourself at any kind of crossroads, if it's something that you're deciding to do, a meeting you're contemplating taking, your schedule as it starts to fill up, anything that feels like a, Hmm, I don't know about this, right? Should I eat this? Should I do that? Do I want to meet with that person? Do I want to do this thing? Do I want to go to that gathering? Whatever it is that comes your way, just pause and then ask yourself that question, is this the kindest thing to do for me? Because sometimes our mind has a totally different idea of what we should be doing, right? We should say yes to everything and go meet everybody and help everybody with all the kind of stuff and do this and do that when sometimes the kindest thing is to say no, right?

[05:38] Or the kindest thing may be that day is to rest a little bit more. I realized for me when I'm really kind to myself at the end of the day, when I'm tired, I go to bed. It took me a long time to realize that that is an act of kindness to myself. Even when I feel like, Oh, I want to stay up and talk to my husband about something, or I want to just zone out and watch a movie. Or it's just that feeling like I want to do something in the evening. The kindest thing, most of the time is going to bed. Even if it's 8:00pm and my brain is telling me that that's crazy, and I'm missing out on a beautiful evening because I need sleep and sleep for me is doing something truly kind because I need it. So, what is that thing for you?

[06:19] What would it be like to really, really focus on kindness toward yourself this week and to do that unapologetically, noticing if any feelings of guilt come up around that, without judging it, without resisting it, just notice. What is it like to choose myself all through the week? So, clear intention this week, this week I will practice absolute and total kindness toward myself or, this week I will be extra kind to me. I love this intention. I really hope you take it to heart. So, find moments and ways to remind yourself of the intention all throughout the week so you can come back to that again and again and again, and then let's evaluate it. Just check in with how we feel come Friday. Wishing you a wonderful and kind week ahead. Have a beautiful rest of your day. I'll be back tomorrow.

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