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Yoga Girl Daily - September 29th 2020

Author: Rachel Brathen

Topics: Tune-In Tuesday, Growth, Self-Love, Healing

Links: Apple Podcasts / Spotify

About the Episode

In what ways are you unkind to yourself?

We all have daily habits or routines that don’t do us any good - but there is always a reason we are immersed in these behaviors.

In today’s episode, we will evaluate our patterns so we can spend more time filling our cups instead of draining them.

Tune in to discover the possibilities.


[00:04] Welcome to Yoga Girl Daily! Happy Tuesday, everyone. I hope you are having a wonderful day so far. Welcome to our Tune-In episode of this week. So, it's time for us to tune in and to contemplate a specific topic. So, yesterday we set our intention for the week, which was to be extra kind to ourselves this week. And today I want to take a moment to contemplate, so not just what ways we can be more kind to ourselves and what kindness really means, but actually take a moment to identify in which ways we are unkind to ourselves. And I think this is something that we don't always contemplate, and it's a really good thing to sit with and actually identify those day to day habits that you have that maybe you are just kind of going through the motions of your day and in your habits are set from weeks or months or years of repetition, right?

[01:00] That's how a habit becomes a habit. And perhaps there is something that you are immersed in right now or something that you're doing every day that actually isn't so kind to you. So, let's contemplate that and see if perhaps we have a little epiphany today, in terms of ways we actually can be kinder to ourselves or perhaps one specific habit or a part of your daily routine that maybe you should rethink. So, if you want, you can close your eyes, you can place your hands to your heart or to your belly or anywhere to the body, just to make that mind body connection right now. Let's take a cleansing breath, so long, full breath in through the nose, open the mouth and let something go.

[01:51] And as you begin softening into the body, bringing your awareness to the present moment, let's take that moment to contemplate right now, a way in which you are unkind to yourself in your day to day. And just that term can be a little bit tricky, I think, for us to navigate unkind. So, what does that mean? Does it mean that I'm being hateful to myself or that I'm bullying myself? Or what does it actually mean to be unkind? I've contemplated this a lot lately and unkind meaning something that you return to again and again, so a ritual or habit, that actually doesn't do you any good. I think in life, we only get one chance at this, you know, and we should be immersing ourselves in things that fill us up, that nourish us, that make us feel good. Not saying that every single day has to be the best day of all time and epic and amazing.

[02:49] We are going to go through the motions of course, as human beings, but it is easy to slip into routines and habits that actually aren't just even neutral or in that gray area of it doesn't mean anything, but actually impacts us negatively. What is something that you do every day that you know actually doesn't fill you up? So, a few things for me that comes to mind right away is obsessively checking the news. A lot of us are doing that these days, just making sure. Okay. What did I miss so far? What happened today politically, in the world, globally pandemic, all of these things going on. Obsessively checking the news again and again and again, how does that feel? What about social media or time you spent glued in front of a screen? Of course, we all have moments where we have purposeful things to do on our phones and in front of our computers, but if you're mindlessly kind of getting stuck in that rabbit hole of just scrolling through things that don't mean anything to you, how does that feel?

[03:53] What about, in terms of your sleeping habits, this for me was a big epiphany, just contemplating this over the past couple of weeks. I never really looked at it that way, but for me staying up really, really, really, really late, which is a habit I've had for many, many years, I'm a little bit of a night owl. Staying up really, really late actually for me, isn't a very kind thing to do. And why is that? Well, I have a hard time sleeping as it is. I really need that time to wind down and soften and be and rest and restore. And every single night that I don't give myself that gift of genuine rest, where I just do something mindless instead, that's actually me being unkind to myself. Oftentimes the kindest thing I can do at the end of the day, especially if it's been a long day, is to go to bed.

[04:41] So, how is that for you in terms of your sleeping habits? What about in terms of what you eat or the people you surround yourself with? Are you stuck in any kind of relationship right now, maybe a friendship relationship or someone in your day to day life that doesn't make you feel good, where every time you connect or interact with that person, you feel a little lower than you did before? So, take a moment just right now to contemplate, what is something unkind that you do that you return to again and again? So, not that once in a blue moon thing, but an actual habit or routine that you have, and it could even be that this habit is totally unconscious, that you're not even fully aware of the fact that, Hey, I'm actually doing this to myself every single day. Now we have to infuse some kindness into this contemplation, right?

[05:28] There is a chance that the reason you're immersed or kind of stuck in this habit is because you're having a hard time in other ways, right? Sometimes it's just, Oh, we need to just check out because we feel overwhelmed. Or maybe your nervous system is totally wired all the time. So, of course it's hard to just go to bed. There's a reason why we are immersed in the habits that we are, so don't add a layer of guilt on top of that, but take this moment right now just to contemplate what actually isn't kind and what would be a kinder option for you, right? Is there a way you can have some phone free zones in your day or times in your day where you know you're not going to be on your phone? Can you trade one of these habits for something a little more uplifting or nourishing or grounding?

[06:12] Can you try going to bed maybe not two hours earlier, but half an hour? Can you make some little tweaks around this daily routine or habit that you have just to make it a little bit more kind? If you would like today, journal on this topic as well. It's really good to identify those points that we have in our lives, where we actually aren't kind so we can make a change if we're ready for that. I hope you have a kind and compassionate and sweet beautiful week ahead. Thank you so much for tuning in with me today. Yoga Girl Daily will be back tomorrow.

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