How To Set and Maintain Boundaries with Nedra Glover Tawwab

Conversations from the Heart - August 27th 2021

Author: Rachel Brathen

Topics: Self-Love, Healing, Lifestyle, Friendship, Love, Family, Motherhood, Growth, Exciting Guests

Links: Apple Podcasts / Spotify

About the Episode

Are you in a relationship that often feels frustrating but you aren’t sure how to exercise your power? Is someone you’re close with pressuring you to act in a way that goes against your intuition? Are you experiencing any guilt for not conforming to behavior deemed acceptable by society?

These are all signs that you need to set and uphold a boundary in your life. Today’s episode can help!

Joining the Yoga Girl Podcast today is Nedra Glover Tawwab. She is here to teach us how to set boundaries, to be assertive, and to come back to ourselves again and again.

When it comes to setting boundaries, the majority of the work begins with ourselves. Learn how to communicate your needs, what to do if they are not honored, and ultimately how to sit with discomfort in today’s important discussion.

Tune in to begin!

More about Nedra

Nedra Glover Tawwab is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert.

She has practiced relationship therapy for 14 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Every day she helps people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries.

Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others.

Nedra earned her undergraduate and graduate degrees from Wayne State University in Detroit, MI. She has additional certifications in working with families and couples and in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, plus advanced training for counseling adults who've experienced childhood emotional neglect.

To connect with Nedra further, you can follow her on Instagram at @nedratawwab or get a copy of her book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace, here.

Key Takeaways

  • Use very clear, concise language when setting boundaries with others. We don’t need to tell the entire back story.
  • We can never know how another person will respond to our boundaries. But our job is not to control them, it is only to state our needs.
  • If someone refuses to listen to us, we can decide how to move forward. Should we drop the boundary? Should we be more flexible? Should we leave the relationship? Depending on the particular circumstances you can find the course of action that feels the best to you.
  • Learn to sit with discomfort. If people do not take our message in a positive way, we need to find ways to self-soothe instead of avoiding doing the hard - but right - thing.
  • Setting boundaries gets easier with time. Like anything, in order to be good at it, you need to do a lot of it! Come back to the practice of setting and upholding boundaries again and again and watch your life transform.