Healing Childhood Wounds Through Parenthood

Conversations from the Heart - March 6th 2020

Author: Rachel Brathen

Topics: Family, Motherhood, Healing, Growth

Links: Apple Podcasts / Spotify

About the Episode

How can you know yourself deeply if you’ve never touched the depths of your anger or reached the height of your joy? We have to feel our emotions to process them in a healthy way – and our ability to do that is often impacted by how our parents led us through sensitive moments as children.

But what if our parents left us with empty spaces in our hearts? A beautiful opportunity for healing presents itself when we cross the threshold into parenthood. What if by parenting our children, we can parent ourselves?

In today’s episode, Rachel is home after a trip to Costa Rica and trying to get her daughter back on her normal schedule. The result is an epic tantrum that lasts hours and emotionally drains Rachel and her husband.

When it is all over, Rachel is left staring at the wall and wondering what it all means. Why do toddlers have meltdowns? Is there a purpose to it all? How can we be there for our children in the most challenging moments?

If you’re a parent, then you know there is no easy way out when your child is having a major emotional tantrum. All you can do is love them, be there for them, and put your patience to the test. As you do that – you may just find you are holding your own inner child as well.

By supporting them you are giving yourself the support you didn’t get when you were growing up. Loving them means you are healing old wounds and filling empty spaces in your own heart.

Tune in to today’s episode to find healing in the hard moments and safety in your own unconditional love.

Key Takeaways

  • Tantrums are exhausting but may be a method that children use to connect to their emotional bodies, find their power and get to know themselves on a deeper level
  • There is no easy solution or checklist to follow when your child is going through an emotional meltdown. All we can do is be there and love on them as much as we can.
  • What did you lack when you were growing up? Give an abundance of it to your kids! By parenting our children we get the chance to re-parent ourselves, too.
  • Through loving our little ones, we can learn to love ourselves. As we carry our children through the hard moments, we are carrying our younger selves and healing the empty spaces in our own hearts