A Radical Act Of Self-Love: Setting Boundaries with our Loved Ones

Conversations from the Heart - May 28th 2021

Author: Rachel Brathen

Topics: Growth, Family, Motherhood, Self-Love, Healing

Links: Apple Podcasts / Spotify

About the Episode

Our identities are complex. We are made up of dreams, beliefs, likes, dislikes and unique personalities - but everything about us is interwoven with the identities of the people we love the most.

So, how can we know where others end and we begin? When do we choose ourselves, and when do we recognize and make sacrifices for a loved one whose needs may be greater than our own?

In this week’s episode, Rachel opens up about her difficult past family dynamics and how they are showing up in her life today in this move to Sweden. Finding herself in a very similar situation she faced as a child, she reflects on bravely balancing her own needs as a human being, as a daughter, and now as a parent, too.

Remember, it is a radical act of self-love to set and uphold boundaries, but that doesn’t mean that its easy or that the decision is always black or white.

Tune in as Rachel tackles the challenging topics of setting boundaries, making difficult decisions, and daring to take up a little bit more space.

Key Takeaways

  • When you choose to honor your instincts, you commit an act of self-love. Sometimes our gut instincts don’t make sense and might complicate the lives of others, but that’s ok. Choosing our own needs over the needs of others takes practice.
  • If you have a complicated relationship with a parent, remember that you are the child and they are the parent. It is their job to take care of themselves, and when you were young, of you.
  • Choose which sacrifices you are willing to make carefully. Remember you are setting an example of how you treat yourself and for how others to treat you when you create and uphold boundaries.
  • You are worthy of love. No matter what happened in your past, remember you are worthy of love and you are enough. We are all figuring things out as we go. You are finding your way right here, right now.