Who Is Poking at Your Wounds? favorite_border

Yoga Girl Daily - February 25th 2020

Author: Rachel Brathen

Topics: Healing, Tune-In Tuesday, Growth

Links: Apple Podcasts / Spotify

About the Episode

Our day is completely affected by how we are relating to other people. Sometimes people rub us the wrong way or trigger us again and again - and we aren’t even aware why it’s happening!

This is when it’s important to take a step back, acknowledge it, and learn from it. If there is a wound that exists in your heart, there will always be someone there to poke at it. But - this brings our wounds to light, and most importantly, it gives us an opportunity to heal.

Maybe the most challenging person in your life is your biggest key to healing.

Tune in to reflect on it.


[00:45] Welcome to Yoga Girl Daily, happy Tuesday and welcome back to our Tune-In Tuesday self-reflection practice! Today I have a topic in mind that’s centered around specific relationships in your life. And this is something that's so interesting because how we feel in our day to day directly is affected by how we are relating with other people. And sometimes we have a very challenging relationship in our lives, something that tends to rub us the wrong way or something that tends to trigger us again and again, but we're not 100% aware of the fact that it's happening. So, we might find ourselves reacting in different ways in that relationship or from how we feel in that relationship to other people, too. And it's something that's great to get to the root of so we can have some clarity around why we feel the way we feel.

[01:44] So, to really get to that truth of the matter, let's take a moment to close the eyes and tune into the breath and into the body. So, becoming very present here in this moment. And then inquiring here, what is the relationship that challenges you right now? What is a relationship where someone in your life where you feel like you are struggling in that relationship, in this moment? A relationship that's man, this isn't easy going right now. And see just immediately which relationship first comes to mind. Perhaps you're super blessed, where every single relationship you have with everybody is totally easy. No problem. Chances are that's not entirely true because we're all human beings. All human beings are flawed. We tend to have triggers pop up in different ways, especially with the people who are the closest to us, our closest family, our closest friends.

[02:46] So, just inquiring on that topic. What is a relationship that's actually really hard for you to navigate right now? It can be a relationship with either of your parents, maybe one of your siblings, maybe you have some challenges with your partner, your husband, your wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, perhaps something going on at work, an acquaintance. What is the relationship where you know that you are totally challenged or triggered right now? And then just the moment that person or that relationship comes to mind, linger there for a little bit. Acknowledge the fact that, okay, this is not an easy relationship for me to be in. Okay. See if you can stay there and be present with that without judging it and without judging the other person. Just in a neutral sense, acknowledge that this is a challenge for me. And then we take it one step further. So what is it about this person or what is it about this relationship that's so challenging and difficult for you right now?

[03:47] Is it the way and how this person communicates with you? Is it their tone when they talk to you? Is it how they treat you? Is it at all related to your, perhaps related to how they speak to other people or what they represent for you? What is it about this person that's creating some struggles and some challenges for you in your life? This is an important inquiry to make. Really getting to the root of that. What is it that's actually hard for you in this relationship? Sometimes we think that people are just difficult and I can't deal with him or I can't deal with her, but there is something about how this person is acting. Something about how the dynamics you're experiencing in this relationship affects you. Something around what's actually going on under the surface when it comes to relating with this person that's rubbing up against something that's already painful within you.

[04:43] And this is so interesting and so true so very often, that those day to day relationships, those data they struggles that we have with other people. Most of the time it's not so much about them, but about what they bring up inside of ourselves. So whatever wounds or pains we already have present in our hearts, other people will come and kind of poke on that and shed light onto what hurts, what's challenging, what's scary, what are my fears, what do I worry about? And people will bring that to surface because it gives you an opportunity to heal. So what if the most challenging person in your life right now is actually your biggest key? What if there is a learning or a lesson here of how to set a firm boundary for yourself? How to put yourself first, how to find forgiveness in your heart, how to be kind.

[05:35] There's some beautiful thing that you're going to learn by moving a little bit deeper into the why of this relationship. Why is this a challenge for you? And let's take another moment just to acknowledge that. Just to feel into that, just to get present. It doesn't mean you have to act on anything today but bringing that to surface so that you know why you feel the way you feel is so important when it comes to your ability to take care of yourself. Let's blink the eyes open. If you'd like to continue inquiring on this, please journal on this topic a little bit today and see if you can find even more answers right at the center of your own heart. Thank you so much for this practice. Yoga Girl Daily will be back tomorrow.

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