Meeting Your Own Emotional Needs First favorite_border

Yoga Girl Daily - October 19th 2020

Author: Rachel Brathen

Topics: Make It Happen Monday, Intention Setting, Self-Love

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About the Episode

If we are immersed in taking care of others, we need to make sure we are taking care of our own needs first!

This may seem counter-intuitive, but we cannot help others if we are depleted and drained. Imagine how much of a difference you could make if you were feeling your absolute best?

This week, we are setting the intention to manage our own emotional needs before those of others.

Learn what you need to meet your own needs by tuning in.


[01:17] Welcome to Yoga Girl Daily, happy Monday, and welcome to our intention setting practice of the week. I think by now, if you're listening to this podcast a lot, you're pretty used to setting your intentions at the beginning of the week. And I want to just give a little reminder of just how important it is that we come back to this intention in actionable ways every single day. Intentions are wonderful, but they don't really work if we just set them on Monday and then forget about them for the rest of the week. So, if you really want to anchor into making a difference in your day, a difference in your life, make sure you return to the intention that you're setting every single day. Find ways to incorporate that into your day so that at the end of the week, you can actually think of the intention that you set and feel how you were able to embody it in your day to day life. I share that because the intention that we're going to set collectively together right now is a really, really, really important one.

[02:23] I know so many of us right now are deeply immersed in the practice of taking care of other people. I mean, raise your hand if you feel like you are a caregiver of some sort, that you are supporting someone else, taking care of someone else, helping other people out. I know I have a lot of parents, moms and dads listening to this show. If you're a parent, a hundred percent you fall into that category every moment of the day taking care of somebody else. But also, for people without kids, you know, so many of us right now, this year, we are dedicated to wanting to be of service, right? Supporting people in our community, maybe people in our community that have been through challenging times, friends, family. So, it's really, really, really important, and we tend to forget this, but it's really important that when we are deeply immersed in caring for other people, that we actually care more for ourselves than we do everybody else.

[03:20] And I know we've been taught since we were little that that's a selfish thing to do, or that's a selfish way to thing. We should be selfless. We shouldn't be self centered or egotistical. We should just take care of everybody else all the time. Being self centered, being egotistical, I know those have kind of negative connotations, those words, but being self-centered is absolutely crucial. Taking care of yourself first is what allows you to have the energy, the time and the resources to actually make a difference in other people's lives, to actually take good care of other people and to actually be of service. So, this week, here's the intention that we're setting: This week, I will meet my own emotional needs first. Oh, I got goosebumps saying that. That means, I really need it too. This week, I will meet my own emotional needs first.

[04:15] Sit with that for a moment. What is the idea of setting that as a really real and serious intention for yourself this week? What does that feel like? This week, I will meet my own emotional needs first. Wow. I mean, just as a mother, knowing how much better of a parent I become when I feel good in my own body, right. When I've practiced my self-care. When I take really good care of myself, it's much easier to be a great mom for my daughter, right? And on the weeks when I'm not taking good care of myself or when I'm not feeling good, parenting becomes so much harder. We know this makes a lot of sense, but the challenge is actually incorporating that and taking it really, really, really seriously. So, this week, what are some ways you can make sure that you show up for yourself and how can you make those practices more important than anything else?

[05:10] And I'm really serious about that. How can you make those practices of taking care of yourself more important than how you take care of other people? And I feel almost like there's a little bit of shame around that and the parenting world as well, as if we're supposed to be so totally selfless as parents and just exhaust ourselves, completely give everything we have to our kids, right? Feels almost a little bit shameful to say, Hey, I want to take better care of myself than I take care of my kids. Imagine the kind of parent you could be if you were at your absolute best. If you woke up in the morning, feeling amazing in your body, in your mind, in your heart. I mean, it's a really crazy thought because so many of us are struggling, feeling heavy, feeling, low, feeling anxious, depressed, worried about the state of the world.

[06:02] So, this year especially is the year for us to anchor into those self-care practices, and for us to realize that the reason we have to do that is actually the opposite of being egotistical. It's the opposite of being self centered. We do that so we can be of service for the world, so we can be epic parents, so we can be great friends, spouses, and neighbors. That is why we take care of ourselves. So, take a moment today. I want you to write down in your journal or on your notes app on your phone, wherever you have the ability to write, just some things you need this week to actually take good care of yourselves. Ways for you to meet your own personal emotional needs first. Maybe that involves having undisturbed time just for you every single morning. Maybe it involves more alone time.

[06:51] Maybe it involves having some fun, you know, having some time away from your family or going out with some friends, doing something totally different. Maybe it involves some structure, some discipline knowing what's ahead for you this week. Maybe moving your body, maybe meditation, maybe something creative, but making sure that you actually incorporate these things every single day. So, if you have a schedule or a to do list for your day, I want this self-care practice of yours to come at the very, very, very top, reminding yourself every day that yes, this week, I'm actually setting this intention to meet my own needs first. So, let me put that all the way at the top of the list, knowing that I have a better chance for the rest of the day to do good things for other people if I take care of myself first. I feel excited about this intention.

[07:37] I know we all need it so badly. And I want you to try to anchor into this place guilt-free, right? You don't have to feel guilty for taking care of yourself. And I think the better care you take of yourself, the less guilt you're going to feel, because you're going to see the effects of that and how it positively impacts your entire family too. Have a great week. I mean, really have a great week. Take care of yourself, drink the water, do the yoga, sit in meditation, have some fun. Kick your feet up. Rest, relax, take care of you and then watch everything else ease up. Thank you so much for setting this intention with me today. I wish you a beautiful and nourishing week ahead. Yoga Girl Daily will be back tomorrow.

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