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Yoga Girl Daily - March 3rd 2020

Author: Rachel Brathen

Topics: Tune-In Tuesday, Growth, Healing

Links: Apple Podcasts / Spotify

About the Episode

How often do you find yourself worrying? Do you tend to run worst-case scenarios through your mind?

A lot of the time, the fear you feel is only in your head. Worrying doesn’t make things easier or keep you safer - and it shouldn’t run your life.

Today’s Tune-In Tuesday episode will give you space to identify your worries and where they come from. Only then can you turn that unsettled feeling in your heart into one of understanding.

Transcript

[00:39] Welcome to Yoga Girl Daily, happy Tuesday and welcome to our Tune-In Tuesday practice of this week! As with every Tuesday, it's time for us to reflect on a specific topic so we can get to the heart of the matter right away. And as with every Tuesday practice, please look at this topic as a beginning of something and then continue journaling on this theme or share about it with a friend after the show. Today I want us to focus on something that I know for a fact each and every one of us deals with on a daily basis and that is… worry. We all worry about different things. Some of us more than others, I know myself, for instance, whenever I'm having a challenging week or if I'm not feeling great, I tend to move into worry and anxiety much more than I do when I'm feeling grounded and stable. And anytime we start to get really into those kinds of worries or fears, usually it means that we don't really have our feet on the ground and we're not able to look at the present moment the way it actually is.

[01:44] Anytime a big fear or that sense of worry takes over and we start to get really fearful about something, it means that we're projecting things for our future that aren't actually true yet. And a great way to move through that is first of all, acknowledging the fact that you are worrying about something. Identifying what is this worry. Notice that it's happening when it's happening. Otherwise a worry can just feel like we are unsettled. So step number one, identify the worry and then number two, where does this worry or this fear come from? Perhaps something has happened in your past and you're worried that's going to happen again. Perhaps you've had an experience before where something came your way that was really deeply hurtful or challenging and you want to protect yourself from ever having to feel that way again, but then automatically you worry about that coming your way in the future.

[02:34] Perhaps you worry about your own safety, about the safety of other people. Perhaps you're witnessing in your mind worst case scenarios playing out in your head all day long. And something that I know for sure is that anchoring into that energy of worry and fear doesn't take us anywhere good. And actually it doesn't generally keep us any safer than we would be without that worry. There's a big difference between an actual legitimate fear from something happening here, now. So fears that are designed to keep us safe and keep us whole versus the worries that we project on things that might one day come our way, but that aren't actually true to this moment. So taking a moment right here, right now, just on this topic of worry, what are you worrying about in your life? Do you immediately know that you have that one big thing that's constantly playing out in your head?

[03:28] Perhaps you have worries around your career, around goals that you're not meeting, around your future, your finances, if you're abundant or not. Perhaps your worries are more around people being safe or people in your proximity, your friends and family. I know for me, most of my worries and concerns are centered around my daughter. I think as a parent that is absolutely normal, but I can sense the difference between worrying about her safety in a way that's legitimate because she's doing something that could be harming her, versus sitting on the couch at night thinking about all the terrors of the world that might come into play or how maybe one day in the future she won't be safe anymore or I won't be able to protect her. So one of those things actually leads me to take action. If there's something that needs to change in the moment, like holding her hand when we're crossing the street or letting her know what our rules for safety are around the house, for instance, versus sitting on the couch making myself panic by focusing on all the different ways that she might be harmed one day.

[04:27] That second one, it doesn't really feel very good and it drops me into this cycle of, I start to worry and the more I worry, the more I worry. So fear feeds into fear and then suddenly I'm spinning out into this place of total anxiety. That's how it works for me. But how about you? What is that big worry, that major concern, that fear that you have in your life that plays out some way in your day to day life. If you want to journal on this a little bit, you can start a blank page and just write the sentence, “I mostly worry about…” and then fill in the blank. “I mostly worry about…” and then see what comes your way. You can do a little bit of stream of consciousness journaling of just writing and writing about writing to see what that worry is. And then give yourself a moment to really sit with where does this worry come from?

[05:21] Most likely, there is a reason why you feel worried in this sense all the time. It's not unreasonable. It's not crazy. It's actually valid. But see if you can connect this worry with what's actually playing out in your day to day life and hopefully do a couple of practices today as you're sitting with that to help you feel grounded and at home in your body, cause this worry, this fear should not run your life. I hope you have a good practice today. Thank you for reflecting with me today and Yoga Girl Daily will be back tomorrow.

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